02 Dec 2025 Not everyone’s cup of tea

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By Laurie Green

I recently experienced a huge milestone in my therapy sessions: I realized I’m not everyone’s cup of tea — and I’m finally OK with it.

Truth is, my whole life there have been people who just haven’t liked me for one reason or another. But for the first time ever, I’ve stopped obsessing and ruminating over why — or how to fix myself so they would. I was raised to not care what other people think, while at the same time being taught that if someone didn’t like me, it was a “me” problem and not a “them” problem. That constant pressure to change who I was just to fit in left me absolutely exhausted.

There came a point where I truly felt worn thin — physically, emotionally and spiritually. I kept trying to reinvent myself, to prove I was worthy, lovable, or enough. But the more I tried, the more I broke. That’s when I finally realized I didn’t need a new version of me — I needed to remember Who created me.

It was hard to reach out for help in the darkness. Shame has a way of keeping you isolated and whispering that no one would understand. This is a place where a lot of us get stuck, and it’s where I stayed for a really long time. But God, in His kindness, placed people in my life who loved me enough to not only check in, but to follow up. They were His reminders that I wasn’t alone, and that healing doesn’t happen in hiding. Looking back, I can see how there is no shame in taking care of your mental health — only strength in doing so.

In those quiet, broken moments, I leaned hard on the promises of God — especially the one that says, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” (Psalm 34:18) And He was. Even when I didn’t feel it, even when I was angry or confused, He stayed close. He reminded me that being broken isn’t the end — it’s the beginning of being rebuilt by His hands.

Now, when I think about not being everyone’s cup of tea, I smile because I’m I smile because I’m not supposed to be! God didn’t design me for everyone’s approval; He designed me for His purpose. And the peace that comes with that realization is better than anything I could’ve found by trying to please people.

I actually love this version of me — the one God’s been shaping through every hard season, every tear, every prayer whispered in the dark. And I’ve found I’m better at building relationships with the ones who like me just the way He made me (chin hairs and all).

Am I done with this journey of becoming thin, healthy, happy and in shape? Nope, not yet. But I can tell you this, hindsight is always 20/20, and I’m learning that often you have to get through the rainstorms to enjoy the rainbow.

Laurie Green
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